Thursday, March 17, 2016

St. Patrick’s Day 2016:



St. Patrick’s Day 2016:



St. Patrick first came to Ireland as a slave and became a devout Christian during his captivity.

St. Patrick’s Day is best known for parades, beer, and turning rivers green, but the holiday has a long history that’s more somber than its current incarnation.
Saint Patrick
St. Patrick was born around 387 C.E. in Scotland, and turned to God once he was kidnapped by slave traders and brought to Ireland to be a shepherd.
“The love of God and his fear grew in me more and more, as did the faith, and my soul was rosed, so that, in a single day, I have said as many as a hundred prayers and in the night, nearly the same,” he wrote, according to Catholic Online. “I prayed in the woods and on the mountain, even before dawn. I felt no hurt from the snow or ice or rain.”
He joined the priesthood after his escape at the age of twenty, and eventually became a bishop. Patrick was tasked with the mission of bringing Christianity to Ireland, where he was enormously successful in converting much of the mainly Druid and pagan population.
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St Patrick’s stone on the Hill of Tara.
History
St. Patrick’s Day originated as a Roman Catholic holiday recognizing St. Patrick, and was brought to America by Irish immigrants as a way of affirming their identity. It’s since been adopted by Americans of all backgrounds.
Traditions
Some Catholics celebrate St. Patrick’s feast day by going to mass, while other observers of the holiday wear orange and green and eat cabbage and corned beef. St. Patrick’s Day parades are commonly held in many cities.
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Youngsters hold flags as they watch Irish pipers move up Fifth Avenue in the annual St. Patrick’s Day parade in New York, March 17, 1949.
Symbols
The shamrock is associated with St. Patrick, as he reportedly used the three-leafed plant as a way of explaining the Trinity — Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.
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A man dressed as St. Patrick waves at the crowd during a parade in South Boston, Massachusetts.

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Friday, March 11, 2016

Pope Francis, Year Four


Pope Francis, Year Four

On March 13th, Pope Francis begins his fourth year as bishop of Rome, and pastor to the world. His first three years have been riveting in many ways, drawing an exceptional amount of attention, even for a media-saturated age. By word and example, he preaches a gospel that remains close to the teaching of Jesus himself. His is not a papacy of privilege and prerogative and pomposity, but one of prophetic defense of the poor, the marginalized, the weak, the sick, the imperfect, the broken and the discarded, against economic and political systems that treat them as lazy and as losers worthy of contempt and punishment. With at least one presidential candidate in the U.S. flaunting his abundant wealth, shouting about the need for torture and an end to human rights, and talking down to Pope Francis, the coarseness and hatefulness of hostility to an eloquent voice for the poor is on display.
Many Catholics and others across the globe follow closely what Pope Francis says and does. He draws large crowds when he travels both to centers of power such as the White House in Washington, as well as to relatively marginal places. In centuries past persons permitted to actually meet the pope were expected to genuflect and kiss his feet. Now we see roles reversed, when it is the pope, the vicar of Christ, who kneels to wash and kiss the feet of the imprisoned and of the poor. In centuries past the death penalty was imposed even in the Papal States; but since at least the papacy of Blessed Paul VI, and that of Saint John Paul II, popes have called for mercy and rehabilitation for even the most heinous criminals. The Church today teaches that their dignity as human beings, and their call to discipleship of Christ, remains intact no matter what wrong they may have done. In his address to Congress, Pope Francis brought up the topic of defense of human life, and focused on the need to abolish the death penalty everywhere. The Church's teaching on the death penalty has developed in a direction that excludes it in every case. Those that say that Church teaching cannot change do not know much about history.
The kinds of people beatified or canonized may also change. Though Bishop Oscar Romero was assassinated in 1980 while presiding at Mass, his cause for beatification was delayed for decades by apologists for right-wing violence in El Salvador. But near the end of Benedict XVI's papacy, and decisively with Pope Francis, delays came to an end: Pope Francis declared Romero a martyr and made his courageous service of the poor, and his voice for the poor, an example for others to follow. Standing up for the oppressed and the marginalized, the refugee and the migrant, is not one thing among many others for Pope Francis: they are at the very heart of a Christian vocation.
The Pope's encyclical on the environment (Laudato si') has an abundance of footnotes, notes that have probably not been read by many, even among those that think that they have given the document careful attention. Yet one of the most interesting things about the encyclical is how it is grounded not only in the teaching of earlier popes and councils, but in the recent teachings of episcopal conferences around the world, in Latin America, in Asia, in New Zealand, as well in Europe or North America. An encyclical is a teaching document published by a pope; Francis makes clear that he also teaches in a collegial way, a way that is not merely his quirky, personal opinions, to take or leave according to one's one whim. Laudato si' is official Catholic teaching as much as any encyclical ever is. It also invites dialogue, especially on the practical details of how to stop climate change and to preserve the natural environment.
Opposition to this encyclical was not long in coming, especially from vested interests that could see their accumulation of extravagant wealth endangered by national laws or international agreements aimed at reducing dependence on fossil fuels and other key factors in environmental degradation. Pope Francis demonstrates how it is the poor, and poorer parts of the planet, that suffer the most from such degradation. Some claim that Pope Francis and the Catholic Church "fail" business people, but is it not instead certain business people that fail to acknowledge the truth and justice of the Church's social teaching? Like other prophetic voices, Pope Francis often calls his hearers to repentance and radical conversion. He sometimes sounds like a Lenten preacher, even when it is not the season, such as when his "Christmas greetings" to the Roman curia, in December 2014, echoed John the Baptist in the desert issuing a clarion call to a dramatic reformation of life. But such appeals are above all a call to a new life of grace and mercy, and to a deepened, humble discipleship of Jesus, the Good Shepherd.
In both autumn 2014 and autumn 2015 bishops met in synod in Rome to discuss and debate pastoral care of the family. Pope Francis set the topic, but he elicited free-ranging debate and prayerful discernment on some of the most difficult issues where merciful pastoral care is challenged by those seeking to uphold what they claim are unchanging and unchangeable laws, rules, norms. For rigorists, adherence to the letter of the law trumps all other considerations, no matter the catastrophic consequences of such severity. Like seventeenth-century Jansenists, they do not trust Jesuits, seeing them as soft on sin and overly optimistic about human nature. But Francis, the Jesuit pope, in his homily for the closure of the October 2015 synod, affirmed that the true defenders of doctrine uphold not its letter but its spirit: they place people above ideas, and God's mercy above condemnations. For Pope Francis, who calls himself a sinner, mercy is not merely the theme of a special year; it is the perennial heart of what is divine and most fully human.

What Will Happen on the Day I Die


What Will Happen on the Day I Die

On the die I die a lot will happen.
A lot will change.
The world will be busy.
On the day I die, all the important appointments I made will be left unattended.
The many plans I had yet to complete will remain forever undone.
The calendar that ruled so many of my days will now be irrelevant to me.
All the material things I so chased and guarded and treasured will be left in the hands of others to care for or to discard.
The words of my critics which so burdened me will cease to sting or capture anymore. They will be unable to touch me.
The arguments I believed I'd won here will not serve me or bring me any satisfaction or solace.
All my noisy incoming notifications and texts and calls will go unanswered. Their great urgency will be quieted.
My many nagging regrets will all be resigned to the past, where they should have always been anyway.
Every superficial worry about my body that I ever labored over -- about my waistline or hairline or frown lines -- will fade away.
My carefully crafted image, the one I worked so hard to shape for others here, will be left to them to complete anyway.
The sterling reputation I once struggled so greatly to maintain will be of little concern for me anymore.
All the small and large anxieties that stole sleep from me each night will be rendered powerless.
The deep and towering mysteries about life and death that so consumed my mind will finally be clarified in a way that they could never be before while I lived.
These things will certainly all be true on the day that I die.
Yet for as much as will happen on that day, one more thing that will happen.
On the day I die, the few people who really know and truly love me will grieve deeply.
They will feel a void.
They will feel cheated.
They will not feel ready.
They will feel as though a part of them has died as well.
And on that day, more than anything in the world they will want more time with me.
I know this from those I love and grieve over.
And so knowing this, while I am still alive I'll try to remember that my time with them is finite and fleeting and so very precious -- and I'll do my best not to waste a second of it.
I'll try not to squander a priceless moment worrying about all the other things that will happen on the day I die, because many of those things are either not my concern or beyond my control.
Friends, those other things have an insidious way of keeping you from living even as you live; vying for your attention, competing for your affections.
They rob you of the joy of this unrepeatable, uncontainable, ever-evaporating Now with those who love you and want only to share it with you.
Don't miss the chance to dance with them while you can.
It's easy to waste so much daylight in the days before you die.
Don't let your life be stolen every day by all that you believe matters, because on the day you die, much of it simply won't.
Yes, you and I will die one day.
But before that day comes: let us live.
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Into Jerusalem


Into Jerusalem
March 11, 2016
Written by Kathryn Matthews
Sunday, March 20
Sixth Sunday in Lent (Palm/Passion Sunday)
Focus Theme
Into Jerusalem
Weekly Prayer
Compassionate God, your love finds full expression in the gift of Jesus Christ your Son, who willingly met betrayal and death to set us free from sin. Give us courage to
live obediently in these days until we greet the glory of our risen Savior. Amen.
Focus Scripture
Luke 19:28-40
After he had said this, he went on ahead, going up to Jerusalem. When he had come near Bethphage and Bethany, at the place called the Mount of Olives, he sent two of the disciples, saying, "Go into the village ahead of you, and as you enter it you will find tied there a colt that has never been ridden. Untie it and bring it here. If anyone asks you, 'Why are you untying it?' just say this, 'The Lord needs it.'" So those who were sent departed and found it as he had told them. As they were untying the colt, its owners asked them, "Why are you untying the colt?" They said, "The Lord needs it." Then they brought it to Jesus; and after throwing their cloaks on the colt, they set Jesus on it. As he rode along, people kept spreading their cloaks on the road. As he was now approaching the path down from the Mount of Olives, the whole multitude of the disciples began to praise God joyfully with a loud voice for all the deeds of power that they had seen, saying, "Blessed is the king who comes in the name of the Lord! Peace in heaven, and glory in the highest heaven!" Some of the Pharisees in the crowd said to him, "Teacher, order your disciples to stop." He answered, "I tell you, if these were silent, the stones would shout out."
All Readings For This Sunday
Liturgy of the Palms
Psalm 118:1-2, 19-29
Luke 19:28-40
Liturgy of the Passion
Isaiah 50:4-9a
Psalm 31:9-16
Philippians 2:5-11
Luke 22:14-23:56
Focus Questions
1. Why do you think the disciples were singing that day as Jesus entered Jerusalem?
2. What do you dare to hope for in your life and the life of the wider community?

3. What does it mean to "keep the peace"? What is the role of religious leaders in "keeping the peace'?
4. How do you respond to Frank McCourt's story from his visit to Dachau?
5. What are the risks of being a Christian today?
Reflection by Kate Matthews
Perhaps today should be called "Cloak Sunday" instead of "Palm Sunday," because Luke's account of Jesus' entry into Jerusalem has no palms, and no hosannas either, two of the most familiar details of this story in the other three Gospels. It's kind of hard to imagine Palm Sunday without them. The cloaks are there, laid out to make his ride easier, as in the other accounts, and there's singing, too - praises being sung, but not by a fickle crowd that will change its mind in a few days and call for Jesus' death. Instead, these voices come from Jesus' own disciples, a whole multitude of them, who have been following him throughout his ministry. They may run and hide when things get rough in a few days, but they never call for Jesus' crucifixion.
These are, after all, people who have seen such great things, who have been so profoundly moved by Jesus' words and his deeds of power that they can't help but sing out today, as Jesus enters triumphantly into their holy city, Jerusalem: Jesus, the hope of a people who long for deliverance from the powers that be, the forces that crush them, that hold them down. Luke says they echo the words of the prophet Zechariah long ago as they proclaim Jesus the king who comes in the name of the Lord, and they sing of peace in heaven, as Sharon Ringe notes, here at the end of Jesus' life, just as the angels in heaven sang of peace on earth at its beginning.
Triumphant joy or ominous peace?
Perhaps it's difficult for us to connect with what's happening in this scene, even though we're familiar with the story. Think of the occasional parade welcoming a championship sports team back to their home city (in Cleveland, this is so occasional that our imaginations are challenged); nowadays this is about the only time we can picture ourselves in a crowd eagerly watching the entry of someone who sparks such celebration. We've all seen old photographs from a time when ticker-tape parades were given in New York City for triumphant heroes of one kind of another. Can you imagine feeling so much hope and joy at the entrance into your city or town of someone who represents not a political, military or sports victory, but the coming of peace itself?
As it happens, if you were listening to this story almost two thousand years ago, when it was written, and of course you lived somewhere in the eastern Mediterranean ancient world, you would hear something more. It would sound familiar to you, very much like the ominous entrance into your city of a military conqueror, escorted by his troops.
In their wonderful book, The Last Week, Marcus Borg and John Dominic Crossan begin their account of Jesus' last seven days with a colorful description of this procession by the King of Peace into one end of Jerusalem at the same time that the Roman Empire's representative, Pontius Pilate, full of brute power, enters at the other end. Picture this: Pilate has arrived to "keep the peace" in the city during the turbulent time of Passover, when the crowds always get a little unruly. He travels with troops and flags and weapons, all the signs of empire, very impressive, of course. And he rides in on a magnificent warhorse, in case the flags and weapons and troops aren't a sufficiently intimidating display of power.
A warhorse, or a donkey?
On the other hand, Jesus - filled with a different kind of power - makes his entrance riding a humble donkey, surrounded by his somewhat ragged group of followers, and we know that he doesn't "keep" the same kind of peace Pilate and Rome intend to "impose," a business-as-usual kind of peace that benefits the empire and the folks on top. No, Jesus brings instead the peace that surpasses understanding, and much of what is about to unfold in the next few days will be the price he pays to bring it.
His disciples, of course, have seen things that have changed their lives forever and have raised their hopes sky-high. Maybe they still aren't sure exactly what to hope for, when their leader rides – of all things – a donkey, a humble work animal rather than a grand warhorse. What sort of signal does that send, what sort of statement is Jesus making? Of course, this particular donkey, like any animal suited for sacred use, has never been ridden, and that should tell them something. Something sacred is happening, right before their eyes. Yes, a common donkey may not be the sort of animal one rides to war or in conquest, but this is no triumphant warrior or conquering power coming into the holy city or into our hearts. This is the King of True Peace.
These disciples are, as usual, clueless. They don't know what's about to happen in the next few days; today, they're just full of joy and expectation. (Evidently, they haven't been listening any of the times that Jesus said he had to suffer and die but would rise again.) But the Pharisees, like many religious leaders in all times, are worried. They seem to have better instincts than most folks about these things, and they can sense trouble brewing. They know about Pilate coming in the other gate of the city, and they're not ignorant of what can happen if Rome feels threatened even by a ragtag group of religious enthusiasts. Rome steps on people, brutally, and puts them in their place. So the Pharisees fret: "Teacher," they say, "tell your followers to hush. They're going to bring down the heel of Rome on all our throats. Don't be causing trouble now."
All creation wants to sing out
Jesus tells them that it's no use and reminds them – and us – that, despite our best calculations and precautions, all creation longs to participate in the drama of salvation. Even if you could get the disciples to quiet down, he says, the stones would shout out the good news, or, as the wonderful preacher Fred Craddock puts it, just as stars can guide, lions and lambs can rest together, and in a few days, the earth can quake and the sun can go out at the worst moment of all. Ironically, these worrywart Pharisees are the ones that now disappear from the story. This is their last appearance, this word of fear their last word, in the Gospel of Luke, before they step off the stage of the drama that is about to unfold.
The worst moment is still ahead by several days, and this day is just one of joyful anticipation, at least on the part of the disciples, if not Jesus himself. After the deeds of power they've witnessed, why should they fear anything or anyone? Their faith has been emboldened by what they've seen, as long as they can forget what they've heard: Jesus' repeated predictions of his suffering and death. But their faith has raised their hopes into dreams of something we can't quite assume we know. Perhaps this entrance of Jesus evokes the kind of joy and relief that we can only imagine, for example, when United Nations troops arrive in a country torn apart by genocide, or when a convoy of trucks carries grain to a starving people. But whatever their hopes, the song these disciples sing comes from deep within them.
Making the decision to follow Jesus past the celebration
This week's passage kicks off, if you will, the holiest of weeks for Christians. There is no "off-season" for being a follower of Jesus; it's an everyday thing, week in and week out, 24/7. Not just Sunday, not just holy days and not just when we're in church or when we're praying. Being a Christian is an every-day, every moment, all-of-our-lives journey. Still, this week is Holy Week, which comes at the end of Lent, a season of conversion, of turning around, of re-orienting our lives toward God just in case we've slipped off course. It's been a time for us, as individuals and as a community, to study and pray and examine our lives, to look inward and to ask ourselves the difficult question of whether we're ready and willing to follow Jesus not just today, in this glad procession, but all the way to the cross.
The cross. Everything Jesus has said and done leads up to the cross, all the healing, the teaching, the calling of disciples, the fasting and praying, the driving out of demons and the calming of waters, the multiplying of loaves and the blessing and breaking of bread, the time in the wilderness and the time on the road, the words to his disciples and the arguments with the powerful, all of his life, has come to this, the facing of death on a cross.
This death was the ultimate gift, the "going all the way," as my friend who is in recovery once told me, that Jesus was willing to go all the way, to pay the ultimate price to show us how much he loves us. I believe that is what the death of Jesus is about – the ultimate gift of love, the gift of a compassionate God who anguished at the death of Jesus, who wept at the death of Jesus, not the ultimate sacrifice required by an angry God, the only sacrifice that would "satisfy" such a God. Rather, I believe God, who is compassion, God who is love, grieved the death of Jesus so much that God said no to death itself and raised Jesus up again on the third day, and this God will raise us up one day, too.
Mis-reading the Bible
Alas, we Christians, we followers of Jesus, have not done such an excellent job of "getting" this message of compassion and love. Instead, for two thousand years, we've often been part of the same kind of brute power systems that stepped on those people of Jerusalem long ago. For centuries, once we got the upper hand, we participated in a whole array of horrors, from the Inquisition to religious wars, from witch-burnings to the repression of women and the selling of slaves, from colonial empires to the killing of Jews…and we used a misreading of the Bible in every case to justify what we did. And all of this time, the God of compassion and love must have wept.
Perhaps it is most appropriate, then, here on the edge of Holy Week, to reflect for a moment on the awful history of events set in motion by a misreading of the events of Holy Week that blamed the Jewish people for the death of Jesus. Just as we can carefully read Luke's account and see that the palms and hosannas that we assume are there, aren't actually there, a mis-reading of the New Testament distorts the story of Jesus' death and blames the Jewish people instead of the powers-that-be, the powers that be in every age and every place that wound the heart of God.
A mis-reading of the New Testament ignores the fact that Jesus himself was a Jew, as were the Apostles and his mother and our ancient ancestors in faith, Moses and Abraham and the rest. When I think about the deepest suffering of the world, I think it is something that most powerfully unites us, that ought to help us find common ground, to recognize the humanity of each of our brothers and sisters, while seeing the image of God in them, too.
Prayers that reach the heart of God
One of my favorite writers is Frank McCourt, who told the beautiful story of his young adulthood in his book, 'Tis. I had read Angela's Ashes, the story of his heartbreakingly difficult childhood growing up in a slum in Limerick, Ireland, when times were tough and his father drank away the family's food money, and he and his mother and brothers barely survived. A lot of this suffering was rooted in the terrible injustices and cruelty of the British Empire against the Irish people, about which we learn less in our history books than in the life story of Frank McCourt.
As a young man, McCourt was a soldier stationed in Europe not long after World War II. One day he was on laundry assignment, an assignment that took him, of all places, to Dachau, one of the most notorious concentration camps of the Nazis, which was now empty except for where the laundry for nearby military camps was being done. One of the other soldiers, Rappaport, was Jewish and, in great distress, refused to enter the camp. McCourt went in, and as he looked at the ovens and thought of "what went in there," he wondered if he should touch them, and whether "it's proper to say a Catholic prayer in the presence of the Jewish dead. If I were killed by the English would I mind if the likes of Rappaport touched my tombstone and prayed in Hebrew? No, I wouldn't mind after priests telling us that all prayers that are unselfish and not for ourselves reach God's ears….I don't know if it's proper to say the Our Father touching the door of an oven but it seems harmless enough and it's what I say hoping the Jewish dead will understand my ignorance" ('Tis: A Memoir).
Better than any skillful misreading of the Scriptures, Frank McCourt's clumsy but heartfelt theologizing at the mass graves of innocents surely touches the heart of God. It draws us back again, ironically, to why Jesus died, to be the face of a compassionate God who lets nothing come between us and the love that holds us every day of our lives, not just during Holy Week, not just when we're in church, not just when we're praying or feeling particularly holy ourselves. This week, as we stumble toward Jerusalem, we can rely on God's grace to carry us every step of the way. On this Palm Sunday, though (with or without palms), in this one moment, we can make a way for Jesus, we can throw our cloaks on the ground and sing our songs of praise, and trust the unknown future to the God who works good in every circumstance and in every holy week of our lives.
A preaching version of this commentary (with book titles) is at http://www.ucc.org/worship_samuel.
The Rev. Kathryn Matthews serves as dean of Amistad Chapel at the national offices of the United Church of Christ in Cleveland, Ohio (https://www.facebook.com/AmistadChapel).
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For further reflection
Beverly Donofrio, 21st century
"One day can change your life. One day can ruin your life. All life is is three or four big days that change everything."
Plato, 4th century b.c.e.
"The measure of a man is what he does with power."
John Steinbeck, 20th century
"Power does not corrupt. Fear corrupts... perhaps the fear of a loss of power."
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, 19th century
"The greatest thing in this world is not so much where we stand as in what direction we are moving."
Kurt Vonnegut, Palm Sunday: An Autobiographical Collage, 20th century
"Trust a crowd to look at the wrong end of a miracle every time."
Wilma Rudolph, 20th century
"I ran and ran and ran every day, and I acquired this sense of determination, this sense of spirit that I would never, never give up, no matter what else happened."
Thomas a Kempis, 15th century
"Great tranquility of heart is his who cares for neither praise nor blame."
"Whenever you do a thing, act as if all the world were watching."
Mahatma Gandhi, 20th century
"The day the power of love overrules the love of power, the world will know peace."
and
"Whenever you are confronted with an opponent. Conquer him with love."
Bill Watterson, Calvin and Hobbes, 20th century
"How come we play war and not peace?"
"Too few role models."
Samuel Smiles, 19th century
"An intense anticipation itself transforms possibility into reality; our desires being often but precursors of the things which we are capable of performing."
Norman Cousins, 20th century
"Wisdom consists of the anticipation of consequences."

Thursday, March 10, 2016

Wedding Vows From Across Religions




Wedding Vows From Across Religions

02/19/2016 10:20 am ET | Updated Feb 22, 2016
  • Malini Bhatia Founder and CEO, marriage.com, a website dedicated to supporting healthy, happy marriages
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Wedding vows are one of the most traditional and important aspects of a wedding ceremony. Wedding traditions from different cultures and religions vary greatly. Most religions recognize a formal assertion of marriage, but there is a difference in how verbal the couple themselves are in making the vows. While Western cultures tend to utilize spoken vows between the couple, many other religions rely on ceremonial and symbolic gestures. Here are some highlights of how different religions handle wedding vows:

Christian Wedding Vows -

Typical Christian weddings, including Catholic, Protestant, Episcopal, Lutheran and Methodist, use what most of us see as traditional wedding vows - the couple promises to honor and cherish each other as well as commit to each other through good times and bad. They vow to never part until death, but they also add "according to God's holy ordinance and thereto I pledge thee my faith [or] pledge myself to you." Catholic weddings place an added emphasis on the bride and groom promising to remain faithful in their mutual, everlasting love. Also, prior to the exchange of vows in a Catholic ceremony, the bride and groom are asked to "accept children lovingly from God, and bring them up according to the law of Christ and his Church."
Quaker and Russian Orthodox vows These religions focus on silent mutual prayer. Instead of saying their wedding vows aloud, the couple prays together. During the prayer, the bride and groom agree to commit to one another, remain loyal, and to always love each other. Following a Quaker silent wedding prayer, which is a congregational affair, the couple stands up, holds hands, and recites vows similar to this: "In the presence of God and these our friends, I take thee to be my husband/wife, promising with Divine assistance to be unto thee a loving and faithful husband/wife so long as we both shall live."Jewish Wedding Vows - In a traditional Jewish wedding ceremony, only the groom makes a proclamation in Hebrew to his bride. However, many modern Jewish couples choose to add their own spoken vows, sometimes both in Hebrew and English. Today's Jewish ceremony combines tradition with modern styles of exchanging vows but the vows are phrased in a question, rather than a statement, like "Do you take this man/woman to be your lawfully wedded wife/husband, to love, honor and cherish?"Hindu Wedding Vows -A Hindu ceremony involves what is called saptha padhi or the Seven Steps. The Seven Steps involves a priest quoting seven promises that the couple then agrees to. As the promises are read aloud, the couple circles a fire, which symbolizes that the bride and groom are together for eternity. A personalized exchange of vows may be utilized, but in a Hindu ceremony, whether the couple exchanges vows or not, the Seven Steps must always be done last and is the final indication that the couple is married. Muslim Wedding Vows - Muslims see marriage as a union of the souls, and Muslim wedding ceremonies are known as nikah. Typically, the Imam or the head of the Mosque reads directly from the Qur'an and speaks about what is required in a marriage. He reiterates the responsibilities the couple has to each other as well as Allah. Once this is finished, the couple formally agrees by saying, "I accept," or the bride and groom can each pledge their faithfulness and honesty to each other. Nikah is considered sacred, so the ceremony is always intimate and simple. Each religious wedding ceremony has different ways of approaching wedding vows, but the meaning behind them are all similar - they are all steeped in meaning and love and express to the world how committed two people are to each other and their marriage.
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02/19/2016 10:20 am ET | Updated Feb 22, 2016
  • Malini Bhatia Founder and CEO, marriage.com, a website dedicated to supporting healthy, happy marriages
Wedding vows are one of the most traditional and important aspects of a wedding ceremony. Wedding traditions from different cultures and religions vary greatly. Most religions recognize a formal assertion of marriage, but there is a difference in how verbal the couple themselves are in making the vows. While Western cultures tend to utilize spoken vows between the couple, many other religions rely on ceremonial and symbolic gestures. Here are some highlights of how different religions handle wedding vows:

Christian Wedding Vows -

Typical Christian weddings, including Catholic, Protestant, Episcopal, Lutheran and Methodist, use what most of us see as traditional wedding vows - the couple promises to honor and cherish each other as well as commit to each other through good times and bad. They vow to never part until death, but they also add "according to God's holy ordinance and thereto I pledge thee my faith [or] pledge myself to you." Catholic weddings place an added emphasis on the bride and groom promising to remain faithful in their mutual, everlasting love. Also, prior to the exchange of vows in a Catholic ceremony, the bride and groom are asked to "accept children lovingly from God, and bring them up according to the law of Christ and his Church."
Quaker and Russian Orthodox vows These religions focus on silent mutual prayer. Instead of saying their wedding vows aloud, the couple prays together. During the prayer, the bride and groom agree to commit to one another, remain loyal, and to always love each other. Following a Quaker silent wedding prayer, which is a congregational affair, the couple stands up, holds hands, and recites vows similar to this: "In the presence of God and these our friends, I take thee to be my husband/wife, promising with Divine assistance to be unto thee a loving and faithful husband/wife so long as we both shall live."Jewish Wedding Vows - In a traditional Jewish wedding ceremony, only the groom makes a proclamation in Hebrew to his bride. However, many modern Jewish couples choose to add their own spoken vows, sometimes both in Hebrew and English. Today's Jewish ceremony combines tradition with modern styles of exchanging vows but the vows are phrased in a question, rather than a statement, like "Do you take this man/woman to be your lawfully wedded wife/husband, to love, honor and cherish?"Hindu Wedding Vows -A Hindu ceremony involves what is called saptha padhi or the Seven Steps. The Seven Steps involves a priest quoting seven promises that the couple then agrees to. As the promises are read aloud, the couple circles a fire, which symbolizes that the bride and groom are together for eternity. A personalized exchange of vows may be utilized, but in a Hindu ceremony, whether the couple exchanges vows or not, the Seven Steps must always be done last and is the final indication that the couple is married. Muslim Wedding Vows - Muslims see marriage as a union of the souls, and Muslim wedding ceremonies are known as nikah. Typically, the Imam or the head of the Mosque reads directly from the Qur'an and speaks about what is required in a marriage. He reiterates the responsibilities the couple has to each other as well as Allah. Once this is finished, the couple formally agrees by saying, "I accept," or the bride and groom can each pledge their faithfulness and honesty to each other. Nikah is considered sacred, so the ceremony is always intimate and simple. Each religious wedding ceremony has different ways of approaching wedding vows, but the meaning behind them are all similar - they are all steeped in meaning and love and express to the world how committed two people are to each other and their marriage.
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Saturday, March 5, 2016

Something New


Something New

 March 13, 2016
Written by Kathryn Matthews
Sunday, March 13
Fifth Sunday in Lent
Focus Theme
Something New
Weekly Prayer
Creator God, you prepare a new way in the wilderness and your grace waters the desert. Help us to recognize your hand working miracles beyond our imagining. Open our hearts to be transformed by the new thing you are doing, so that our lives may proclaim the extravagance of your love for all, and its presence in Jesus Christ. Amen.
Focus Scripture
Isaiah 43:16-21
Thus says the Lord, who makes a way in the sea,
   a path in the mighty waters,
who brings out chariot and horse, army and warrior;
   they lie down, they cannot rise,
   they are extinguished, quenched like a wick:
Do not remember the former things, or consider the things of old.
I am about to do a new thing; now it springs forth,
   do you not perceive it?
I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.
The wild animals will honor me, the jackals and the ostriches;
   for I give water in the wilderness, rivers in the desert,
to give drink to my chosen people, the people whom I formed for myself
   so that they might declare my praise.
All Readings For This Sunday
Isaiah 43:16-21
Psalm 126
Philippians 3:4b-14
John 12:1-8
Focus Questions
1. What do you think is the role of a prophet?
2. Why do you think ancient empires carried away the artists with the political leaders?

3. Who are "rereaders" of Isaiah's text today?
4. What is the "something new" that you long to see God do?
5. What is the Stillspeaking God saying to the church today, in a new day?
Reflection by Kate Matthews
We may have to get past a common misconception about prophets in order to better appreciate the depth of beauty in the words of Isaiah in this week's focus text. Perhaps we imagine prophets as people who somehow, magically or miraculously, predict future events. Even our supposedly sophisticated, scientific culture shows a remarkable level of interest in "prophecies" that predict the end of the world, whatever their source, including the Bible itself.
I confess that it requires willpower on my part not to get caught up in such conversations (in person or on Facebook) even though, or perhaps, because most of my childhood was spent dreading the end of the world that was supposed to arrive with the year 2000. This "prophecy" came from vaguely religious sources, long before secular ones stirred up anxiety over Y2K or a little-known Mayan prophecy twelve years later. Such talk captured my imagination and held it hostage for far too many years. What the world needs now and always, however, is a word of hope, not self-proclaimed "prophets" who claim to predict future events beyond our control and full of doom.
Words of comfort in exile
This prophet Isaiah, however, is full of anything but doom. As we recall from our reading two weeks ago, the voice we hear in this part of the book of Isaiah is often called "Second Isaiah," and many scholars believe he addressed the people of Israel not to warn them with words of judgment (as First Isaiah seems to do, before the exile, in chapters 1-39), but to comfort them during their years of exile in Babylon, far from home, cut off from their homeland, from who they are and from how God wants them to live.
Walter Brueggemann speaks about the role--and timing--of these poetic voices in the life of Israel, when the people thought they had brought this calamity upon themselves by their faithlessness, or needed to be reminded about God's own faithfulness throughout their long history. When things seemed to be the worst they had ever been, God sent these prophets to sing a new song, to lift the spirits, expand the imagination, and solidify the hope of the people. "From the bottom of loss and guilt arose in Israel a series of new, imaginative poetic voices," Brueggemann writes, "...who took the loss with deep seriousness but who shrewdly reinterpreted old faith traditions to turn exilic Israel in hope toward the future." This is a key point, because we are called to be like Israel, "a buoyant community of hope that believed and trusted." In other words, this message was not just for one place and time, but a word for the future as well.
Can we trust this text?
Brueggemann often writes in general about poet/prophets, but he also writes specifically about this week's passage in the same spirit as Gerhard von Rad did, calling it "that most remarkable of all texts that we should not speak until we decide if we trust it." Considering how many texts Brueggemann has studied over the years, we can begin to sense the significance of this week's short reading. He describes the weighty consequences for Israel of Isaiah's words but certainly for us as well, because "they will have no personal joy, no public justice, no corporate repentance, and no family humaneness until the community received a newness it cannot generate for itself." Could it be that we fail so miserably at transforming our communities because we think, deep down, that we can do it all on our own, that it's all about us and our own cleverness and resourcefulness?
The two most momentous experiences in ancient Israel's life as recorded in the Old Testament, of course, were the Exodus and the Exile. In each situation, God heard the cry of the people and sent prophets in their hour of need: Moses, to the people in Egypt, and prophets like Isaiah to the people in Babylon. God led the people home in both situations, to the Promised Land in the first, and Back Home Again in the second. But there are differences between the two captivities as well, because the time in Egypt was formative for the Hebrew people: it's where they became a people and a nation.
A people dear to God's heart
Elizabeth Achtemeier writes about the way God shaped a people out of "a ragtag bunch of seminomadic Semites," slaving away under Pharaoh's cruel regime and crying out for help. We know that God did indeed hear them, took pity on them, and, Achtemeier writes, "set his love upon them." She calls that Israel's "founding story," and we know that they repeated it to one another, generation upon generation, reminding themselves of where they came from, and who called them into being the people they became. Over and over again, they told themselves the beautiful story of God setting God's love upon them. (I've always loved that story-telling process being described as necessary for "un-forgetting.")
On the other hand, the Jewish people did not suffer in Babylon in quite the same way that they suffered in Egypt. There were no bricks to make (with or without straw), no whips, no prison walls. It was a different kind of captivity, but perhaps just as wounding to their soul, especially if they forgot who they were and bought into the values and ways of the empire that had carried them off. Brueggemann has written often of this tension between Israel's identity and the pressures of empire, a tension that translates well into our own life, thousands of years later and thousands of miles away, facing different but still formidable powers that be. He describes the problem of exile in Babylon as severe displacement, alienation "from the place that gave identity and security…[and] the shapes and forms that gave power to faith and life."
For Israel, exile was being lost, homesick, divided, unmoored, rootless except for memory. It must have been challenging to resist settling into Babylon ways, Babylon beliefs, Babylon values. It must have been hard to resist the temptation to settle down, fit in, sell out, and forget the story that had held them together. After all, what good had all that done them? (An ancient version of "How's that working out for you?") Into that emptiness stepped a poet-prophet to sing a new song about ancient things, about the new thing that the God of old was about to do. Maybe that's why we use the words, "ever ancient, ever new."
Be sure to take the artists
I remember learning long ago that ancient empires knew how to eradicate a people. They didn't just defeat their army and take their king captive; they carried off the "flower" of the nation, including the artists, the poets, the musicians, those voices that sustain the people. They knew that they had to defeat more than armies: they had to destroy the vision, the dream, of the people as well. Babylon was doing a pretty good job at that when Isaiah stepped forward and reminded the people of Israel that they hadn't seen it all, not yet. Certainly, the saying "It ain't over till it's over" fits here, for God was going to step in and do something truly amazing. David Bartlett puts it this way: "Anything God can do, God can do better, and backwards and upside down as well….Isaiah predicts different performances by the same actors, different dramas by the same author."
It may be paradoxical, it may be ironic, but it's definitely surprising: right after describing God's actions in the past (and they were glorious, no question about it), the prophet says that we should "not remember the former things, or consider the things of old" (v. 18). What better way to get the attention of people who think that their glory days are over, that their story has run out? Maybe "the former things" are God's judgment and anger at the people's faithlessness in the past. Maybe. Or maybe "the things of old" are great works that are about to be outdone, as Bartlett puts it, by a God who can outdo anything God has done in the past. Does it matter? Both meanings are wonderful (full of wonder), and they hold true for us today as well.
Where you are matters when you're reading these texts
When any group of faithful people turns to the poet-prophet Isaiah for a word of hope, no matter which empire has its heel on their throat, Brueggemann says that "Scripture is 'thick' with many meanings that leave open many possible readings," and he assures us "that the text itself authorizes these many new acts of imagination." (No wonder that we say, in the United Church of Christ, that "God is still speaking.") Elsewhere, he invites us to think of examples of people who read a text like this one "from below," like women, people of color, the poor. After centuries of such texts being appropriated like property by those with power and authority (again, irony), Brueggemann calls these marginalized voices "rereaders" who grasp more readily "the radical quality" of this prophetic text and the lessons it teaches us about God and about the way God wants us to live.
Surely the world would be a better place if all of us--whether reading from above or below--became "re-readers" of these poems, and let the poetry transform us, let it turn our hearts and minds in hope toward the future God has promised and the new and surprising wonders God will work. Brueggemann quotes another great scholar, Claus Westermann, whose words sound like they are just as much addressed to the church today as they are a reflection upon the situation of the Jewish people long ago: "Israel requires to be shaken out of a faith that has nothing to learn about God's activity, and therefore nothing to learn about what is possible with him, the great danger which threatens any faith that is hidebound in dogmatism, faith that has ceased to be able to expect anything really new from him." Brueggemann himself writes that "biblical faith is geared to the future. It moves always to God's coming miracle that pushes past old treasured miracles...."
Consider our hymns and creeds and Bible studies and doctrines and church history: are we so focused on the past that we have forgotten to expect the unexpected? Have we forgotten that we worship, and listen for, a God who is still speaking, and still acting, today, and that we cannot even begin to imagine the great things that God is about to do?
Waters of creation, waters of life
Because he is a poet, the images Isaiah uses are both beautiful and compelling. They evoke primal human experiences, like profound thirst. In fact, the most powerful image in this week's reading is water, and many scholars take note of the waters of creation, the waters of the Red Sea, and, of course, waters in the desert--for the people wandering on the way to the Promised Land, the people on their way Back Home, and for all of us who thirst for justice and wholeness and peace.
While water can bring life, it can also block it (think floods), as Michael E. Williams notes, and both of these meanings are present in this passage: it's because of God doing a new thing that water brings us life instead of keeping us from it. Williams asks about the barriers in the life of the congregation that keep it from experiencing God at work in new and surprising ways, including "the seven last words of the church": "We've never done it that way before." He also takes note of the easy-to-miss mention of "jackals and ostriches" in verse 20, the "most dangerous and outlandish of God's creatures" that will be included in these great works, and will have sense enough to honor God for the great gift of water that sustains their lives even in the wilderness: Williams suggests that we learn from them. Amen to that!
Letting go of past pain
Margaret Aymer suggests several ways to approach this text, encountering God as the "way-maker" who cuts paths for us when it seems that all we face are obstacles and hopelessness, and telling the story again and again, especially to those most in need of hearing it. She also suggests that our Lenten discipline might be one of letting go of the past and its pain, a most difficult thing for us to do. For example, how might such a movement transform our families? For the larger community, Aymer presents a specific challenge when she asks us to consider letting go of our shared pain and outrage over the terrorist attacks on September 11, 2001, which, in many ways, have shaped our national life for almost fifteen years. Is memory in this case something we hold onto in order to justify what we do and feel today, or are we willing to open ourselves up to "a relinquishment of past pain"?
A world that is filled with both trouble and beauty
We live in a world filled with both trouble and beauty, a world that finds it hard to let go of pain. We hear the cries of anguish and desperation of those who suffer. What is our response? Have we ourselves forgotten the story of God's great love and works of love and justice, compassion and restoration? Have we also forgotten to open ourselves to the new and amazing things God is about to do? Have we contained our dream too closely, and practiced a meager economy of expectations? Have we forgotten how to hope?
A preaching version of this commentary (with book titles) is at http://www.ucc.org/worship_samuel.
The Rev. Kathryn Matthews serves as dean of Amistad Chapel at the national offices of the United Church of Christ in Cleveland, Ohio (https://www.facebook.com/AmistadChapel).
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For further reflection
Plato, 4th century b.c.e.
"Poets utter great and wise things which they do not themselves understand."
James Baldwin, 20th century
"The poet or the revolutionary is there to articulate the necessity, but until the people themselves apprehend it, nothing can happen."
Jesse Jackson, 20th century
"Our dreams must be stronger than our memories. We must be pulled by our dreams, rather than pushed by our memories."
Houssaye, 19th century
"We must always have old memories and young hopes."
John Keats, 19th century
"Poetry should surprise by a fine excess and not by singularity--it should strike the reader as a wording of his own highest thoughts, and appear almost a remembrance."
Alice Walker, 21st century
"Expect nothing. Live frugally on surprise."
Albert Szent-Gyorgyi, 20th century Hungarian biochemist
"Water is life's mater and matrix, mother and medium. There is no life without water."

I Don't Need to Be Saved

I Don't Need to Be Saved

03/03/2016 10:36 pm ET | 
  • Steve Austin Family man, speaker, & advocate of second chances. Steve blogs regularly at www.iamsteveaustin.com
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Have you ever been cut off by a friend? I don't mean moving away and slowly disconnecting. I am talking about a sharp, intentional separation, from friendship to... not.
It's happened to me twice in the past six months. I get it. I've been become more vocal than ever in sharing honestly who I am, who I want to be, and what I believe. I am learning to be vulnerable, but that doesn't make me invincible. The pain of losing a true friend cuts deep.
In both situations, I lost a friend I had shared deep parts of my soul with -- both past sins and future dreams. They were kind of friends you'd lend money or drop everything to rescue from the side of the highway. Vacations with your families kind of friendships. And now they are over.
Why? One word I have grown to hate: theology. In each circumstance, these friendships ended because I'm willing to say I don't know.
I don't know what I believe about hell. I don't what I believe about the rapture. I'm not sure if we'll be pre-trib, post-trib, or mid-trib. I don't know what I believe about speaking in tongues.
I am pretty sure what I believe about homosexual Christians, and it's not going to win me any popularity contests with the Religious Right.
The one thing I do know is this: I am called to love.
If you have answers to each of the above items, and are able to defend your faith to the fullest, I must admit I'm jealous of you. I have studied the Bible, read books and articles, and listened to podcasts and sermons, desiring to truly know what I believe. The more I studied, the more I realized God is pretty mysterious. I also realized I am not in a place where I feel comfortable speaking on God's behalf.
Through the years, I have grown very skeptical of those who are willing to say, "Thus saith the Lord," because after two years of ministry school, a decade of service, and a lifetime of following Jesus, I still have days when I don't know what on earth God is saying.
I love the wisdom a mentor can bring, if that's what I have signed up for. I also love to sit under great teachers of the faith, if that's what I am choosing. But what I do not appreciate are friends who make it their mission to save me simply because our theology doesn't line up on all points. I don't like the feeling of another Christian deciding I still need to be saved.
Disagreement can teach us a great deal, when it's done in a respectful way. I am trying, daily, to cultivate a life that invites relationships with people different from me. What I want now is for others to extend that same grace to me.
Grace to be wrong. Grace to be uncertain. Grace to say, I don't know. Do we really have to agree on every point to acknowledge the salvation of the other? Do I really need to be saved just because I have gay friends?
Losing friends over theology that none of us fully understand is disappointing and frustrating, but denying my belief in a grace that is greater than I could every fathom is not something I am willing to do. There's grace for dreamers like me. And there's grace for the friends who have walked away, in favor of a religion that fits in their box. There's even grace for those whose don't recognize their need for it. I'm so glad grace doesn't cut off any of us, no matter our theology.